I’m missing mum a lot this Mother’s day.. A lot has happened in the last month or so that I don’t want to write about yet.. But just want to remember some of our special memories here..
- I think we started celebrating Mother’s Day around the time when I was a teenager.. I remember that I and my then best friend C would buy a small present and a special card for our mums. The first present that I bought for mum was a lipstick! 🙂
- In the last year of college, I made a collage for mum with lots of pictures of mum, my sisters, and my grandma – chronicling our time together through the years.
- Once I moved to US, I would send her flowers and a card.. I love cards and try to find the ones with the most thoughtful messages. Mum cherishes my cards and waits for them every year. Sometimes, I send them late but always make sure that I send them. This is the first year in a really long time that I haven’t sent her a card..
It’s been almost a month since we haven’t properly talked. All of us are going through a very tough phase and are at breaking point. And we have no idea how long this phase is going to last. I just hope that we get through this phase. God, please give her the strength to deal with everything and fight her battles and move on in life. I hope that she can come and stay with me for a bit in US.
I read an article yesterday that mentioned that Mother’s day is the next biggest holiday after Christmas and Hanukkah, in terms of the money spent. Yes, most people are happy to celebrate Mother’s day and get their mum a present or do something to make her feel special on this day, which is great. But what about the rest of the year? I see so many mothers wanting to do everything for their kids – cooking, cleaning, running the house, and providing everything for their kids. And these children, who may be little kids or adolescents or grownup adults, take their mothers for granted and have this weird sense of entitlement. I have noticed a general attitude that it’s alright for the mother to sacrifice and compromise her comforts/wants/needs for her kids or others in the family. What I find the most frustrating is that mothers are proud of sacrificing everything, or putting themselves at the lowest priority since that makes them a ‘good’ mother.
So if you are reading this, please take a few minutes to think about what you do for your mother through the year? Do you make the effort to help her out in day-to-day life, to make sure that she gets a break from the never-ending chores, and that she also gets a chance to live life? Have you ever wondered what your mother’s life and identity is, outside of being a mother? What does she like to do in free time, what makes her happy? Does she get a chance to do those things? Like everyone else, does she ever get a holiday from her ‘work’ (which may be managing the house and bringing up kids)?
A song dedicated to mom on Mother’s Day – Mumma from Dasvidaniya