Why India needs a slut walk!

So I read a blog post on Are we ready for a slut walk in India here.

And I disagreed with the author’s opinion, and spent a long time replying to his post.. Since the author very conveniently deleted my comment without replying, I decided to post it here! So here is my comment! And I would really like to know what you think about this. Do you think this is offensive?

I am surprised that so many educated young men and women still think like this. I would like to comment on the points you are making:

1. Naming slut walk as ‘Besharmi Morcha’ has been done to ensure that more people are able to connect to the issue. It does not mean that we are just aping the west. India has been ranked as the fourth most dangerous country for women.. what do you think is the reason? because whenever there is a gender crime, the woman is always blamed – she was wearing improper clothes, she was out alone late in the night, her character is assassinated etc. Why is the man in question not punished and shunned by society? Irrespective of who his target was, he is a serious criminal.

2. Its not about wearing revealing clothes – the Delhi Slut walk has constantly emphasized that women can wear whatever they are comfortable wearing, whatever they wear everyday. Its just about reclaiming your space in society, in public transport, basically in everyday life to be treated as an equal human being.

3. Why is it that when a woman is raped, her life is ‘supposed to be destroyed’. Excuse me, but I think she did not commit a crime by being raped. It is the man’s life that should be destroyed and not her’s.

4. Coming to clothes, please tell me why are 3 year or even 3 months old babies raped? And why are 40 year old women in salwar kamiz raped? And why are crimes against women highest in Arab countries? Because that particular man is an animal who think its his right, and he knows he will get away with it. He should be jailed and castrated. In our society, it is assumed that somewhere the woman was at fault. People need to wake up and realize that this is a misconception. No matter what a woman is wearing, how she behaves, you do not have a right to violate her personal space and body. And if it happens, then you are the accused and need to be PUNISHED.

5. You claim that women dress up nicely to attract attention and hence objectify themselves as sex objects. I have a question – do men like to dress up nicely? Do men like to build their body and expose it? Do they do that only to attract attention? Doesn’t it make them feel good about themselves? And even if they want to attract attention, what’s wrong with it? Does it mean that the man wants to have sex and any woman who sees him should pounce on him? No right, its the same for women! They have a right to dress up the way they like, even attract attention of the opposite sex. But this does not mean that anyone can violate their body.

6. I don’t know if this movement would affect the lecherous eve-teaser on the street, but this has sure led to a lot of discussion which will make people realize issues like victim blaming. Secondly, I hope that some women will get empowered so that the next some a**h*** tries to grope them in the public transport, they can confront/slap/scream/do something to tell him that this will not be accepted. And I sincerely hope that the men who are aware of this campaign and understand the situation will take a stand for what is right.

7. Dowry, female foeticide etc are all inter-related at some point. It is considered a liability to have a girl child because – (i) the family has to protect her honor and make sure she doesn’t violate any of the ‘rules for women’ (ii) to ensure she obeys, she’s not educated well/not allowed to work (iii) this causes financial dependence/lack of career development (iv) this is why dowry needs to be given (v) this is why a girl child is not wanted. If you would like to read up more on this, please visit http://indianhomemaker.wordpress.com/ She talks about all these issues in a very detailed manner.

8. I can compare this situation to a serial killer being out at large in the society. Do people stop living life and stepping outside because who knows – the serial killer may be around and target you. ‘Rapists’ need to be treated as serial killers, so that they know they will not get away with it!

I would like to know what you think about this entire issue, so please share your opinion!

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2 Responses to Why India needs a slut walk!

  1. Abhinandan says:

    Kinmin
    I am the moderator at beingabhi.com
    There were multiple instances of the comment and I deleted two. I am not sure how all of them were deleted.
    We respect your opinion and the author would reply on the same.
    Can I request you to post the comment back(via the wordpress comment option, I am not going to rely much on the FB comment bar after this)?
    We did not have an intention to ‘conveniently’ delete it. Every one has a right to speak their thoughts out. And of all the people, we should listen to those who disagree with you 🙂
    Apologies that all the FB comments got deleted.

    regards
    abhi@beingabhi.com

  2. kinmin says:

    Thanks for getting back to me Abhi, I appreciate it.. I was a little disappointed when I saw that the comment was deleted but I guess it was just an error! Anyway, I think this is rather long for a comment, and will just post the link to my post on the blog!
    Thanks again!

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